My Story

Before learning the 6 intimacy skills my marriage was a battleground filled with pain, anxiety, control and an OW. I felt completely disconnected from my husband and punished him with ultimatums and screamed at him during counseling. I was undignified and believed it was all his fault. My husband and I separated. My entire vision as a wife and mother appeared shattered, nothing was helping. I was exhausted, binge eating and I was terribly sad. The counseling failed but somehow I knew I had to find something I could do to save my marriage. I Googled how to save my marriage and I found the book The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. At first I hesitated but felt drawn to it and once I started reading it I couldn’t put it down. It resonated with me and I felt hope. I remember thinking I can do this and wherever I went the book went too.

I dove straight in and after noticing instant peace and connection, I enjoyed experimenting with the skills everyday. The cheat phrases gave me tools to build respect and create the safe space I so desperately needed. Relinquishing control was my greatest struggle and did not come naturally.

I began to truely understand that I was responsible for my own happiness and my journey of self-care and staying on my paper began. When I felt filled up I was able to create an intimate and peaceful relationship. Relinquishing control was a liberating struggle, each time I stumbled I became more aware of my blind spots and through practicing the skills I learned to honour myself and express desires. I learned that vulnerability opens the space to receive.

Today our relationship is filled with gratitude and because of the skills he is more involved in the family now than ever before.